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Forever 21, Outfit Of The Day.

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Yesterday, I was feeling fancy. & if you follow me on snapchat you would’ve seen my shameless self promotion and me jamming to Beyonce’s “Feeling Myself” lol– my username is callynnlynell, btw! You guys know that since I’ve gained weight, I don’t really view myself the way I used to. At times I don’t always see the beauty, even though I know it’s there, and when I look at pics it’s almost depressing to see how big I allowed myself to get. But no worries, I’m not depressed and I’m working on it! It is nice, though, to have days like this–where I feel fancy. Sure, I see the roundness in my cheeks and my boobs look like implants, lol, but I still look hot–I don’t care what anyone says! Some days, you just have to brush it off and tell yourself that you look amazing, no matter what! There’s no reason to beat yourself up; just use what you see now as motivation to change & become what you want to be in the future. I may not be forever 21, but I am forever beautiful.

Dress: Forever 21

Shoes: Steve Madden

Bracelet: Banana Republic Factory Store

Necklace: Banana Republic Factory Store

The ring and smaller bracelet are from my mother and are quite old, so I don’t have links for those! Also, the Banana Republic Factory Store site has a very limited selection & their jewelry isn’t on there at all, so I linked to something I would’ve worn from the retail store.

 

 

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You Don't Want Equality!

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Over the years I have noticed a few things about people who talk about promoting change and equality. Specifically, I have encountered several of these people and groups in high school/college–I graduated in ’09 and ’12. But in the end, I am often confused as to what their end goal is. I mean sure they say it’s to create opportunities for their specified group, making them equal to everyone outside of the group, but is that really the case? Is the end goal truly complete integration?

People often complain about certain social structures and the discrepancies between social groups, but they always complain to and discuss within their group and not directly to the “other.” When I was a graduate student at Fordham University, my professor asked me if I was in any social clubs, e.g. BSU, aka Black Student Union. I replied, “I don’t do those,” and of course he immediately questioned why. I expressed that although I understand the purpose of the separated groups and the way in which they are conveniently formed, I’d be more obliged to join a diversity group instead—all inclusive and having various issues addressed amongst one another. He understood; and you know what else he told me? As a man of mixed race, Dominican and African-American, he happened to be the sponsor of two social groups: the Hispanic group and the African-American group (I don’t remember their acronyms, sorry). One day, he proposed to each group the opportunity of joining as one. He explained the advantages of the collaboration and how they could unite resources, expand their reach, discuss issues that each of them face separately, together, and possibly with one another, etc. Their response: no, we want to stay within our own groups; we don’t need to join with them.

Seriously people? I call bullshxt. We protest equality, we say we want integration and unity, but when the time comes we show our true colors—we really want superiority. We want our chance to “be the man.”

Yes, I know that some people are expressing themselves and joining with others to create change– I salute them and this isn’t for them. But if you immediately become defensive, this is for you. I need you to truly evaluate what it is that you want. When you speak about change and equality are you always referring to people as “them,” “they” and “those.” When you cry out in outrage is only to those who look like you or is it to everyone? & are you always on the defense?

And to those who complain about people who are actually in these groups: have you ever tried to join one? Have you ever attended a function or event that was directed toward a cause that may not be directly linked to you? Do you listen when these people are speaking, or do you immediately write them off because you assume that what they have to say isn’t relevant to you? Something that I appreciate about LGTBQ groups is that they usually present their groups as a Gay-Straight Alliance. They understand the importance in the ally.

Look, I get it, I promise I do. When I went to a student diversity leadership conference in high school, I broke down like a baby in front of my peers–it was only about 8 people & 2-3 were teachers. I didn’t realize how much certain behaviors affected me and that people’s ignorant comments and snide remarks bothered me so much. But, so many of them behaved in that way due to the lack of exposure to people that didn’t look like or grow up like them. &People can’t learn about something if no one ever teaches them–that’s where you come in. You know the White guys in high school never knew that Black women are not born with straight hair, but have to chemically alter it every month. Lol. But why would they? –especially before the “natural hair movement!” And that sort of thing is trivial, so imagine other things.

 It’s unfortunate that we don’t know how to speak to one another. It is unfortunate that over the years so much anger has been festering and tension has been building. But I ask that you try a little harder. Try harder to communicate with the person on the outside. Or when someone on the inside invites you to see the view, go and check it out! That way, there will be no longer be an outside and inside. It’ll be one view, one goal. And this is NOT limited to race; it’s just what I experience the most. This spans the entire spectrum people. You will never know that my cause is your cause if we don’t join in efforts together. 

If you want equality, prove it.

Lynella!

Jean-Jacques Rousseau : Quote 54.

Hey everyone! How are you guys doing? I’ve been MIA, I know, I know & I apologize. I pray that you all have been well! Here is a thought for the day:

I ran across the quote below in an email that I’d save from my previous blog posts and thought I would share it again. I discovered this quote as an undergrad in a political science course that focused on philosophers like Jean-Jacques Rousseau; the passage below the quote was my initial reaction.

“I expect I shall not easily be forgiven for taking the side I have dared to take. Clashing head in with all that is today admired by men, I can only expect universal blame: and it is not for having been honored by the approbation of a few Wise men, that I should expect the approbation of the Public: Thus I have chosen my side; I do not care whether I please Wits or the Fashionable. There will always be men destined to be subjugated by the opinions of their century, their Country, their Society: Some men today act the part of a Freethinker and the Philosopher who, for some reason, would have been fanatics at the time of the League. One ought not to write for such Readers when one wants to live beyond one’s century.” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Not certain what this is in reference to yet, being that I’m in the preface of the book, ha, but it made me think of being a Christian. Not a poser for Christ, but someone who is a genuine Christian, Christ seeker, and lover of God..especially in today’s society. Oh the world we currently live in, sweet children; say a prayer.

At the time I applied the quote to religion–specifically Christianity, as I am a follower of Christ–and I still believe that to be true, but honestly it’s applicable to everything. No matter what, hold fast to what you believe in. Make choices based upon your own morality and your personal truth. Unfortunately society operates as one big groupthink ” a psychological phenomenon that occurs within a group of people, in which the desire for harmony or conformity in the group results in an irrational or dysfunctional decision-making outcome” for those of you who don’t know what that is. Sure, we should all be influenced by one another, and we all work together to function and coexist as a society; but, that doesn’t mean that you should change your values and beliefs on the basis of what others believe to be true. What do you believe to be true?

Live for that.

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True Nobility: Quote 53.

“There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self.”- Ernest Hemingway”

 

Thank you to Kingsman: The Secret Service for bringing this lovely quote to my attention. Remember, always remain true to self; it’s what’s necessary to be a better you than you were yesterday. For that it what matters most.

 

Check out the movie trailer below; I do recommend it.

Quote (43): A Reminder.

For those of you who are feeling a little down and somewhat doubtful today, this post is for you–just a little reminder!

“Promise me you’ll always remember: You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” -Christopher Robin, Winnie The Pooh, A. A. Milne

God will never put more on you than you can bear, so no worries. You can do it! There is no one around that can do what you do, quite the way that you do it. 🙂

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Even when you may not believe in yourself, remember: I believe in you! I am rooting for all of you!

WARNING: This video will bring happiness, joy, smiles, and all around good feelings. You have been warned 😉

xoxo,

Lynella!

 

Quote 39: Be Like Christ.

 “Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 2:1-5

 

Whether you’re religious or not, or a follower of Christ, I still believe that these are great words to live by. Love one another, man.

<3 Lynella

Daily Quote (10).

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” -Steve Jobs

 

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