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Would You Date Outside Your Religion?

So, this is something I’d written a couple of years ago and I’m bringing it back to life. I haven’t actively dated in quite some time, but this question never evades me. While watching Grey’s Anatomy, fictional, I know, the relationship between Dr. Jackson Avery and Dr. April Kepner got me thinking again–how do people interfaith marriages work? She is very firm in her Christian faith, and Jackson doesn’t believe in God at all. In the beginning, their marriage was tested because not only did he call her faith silly and God fictional, they disagreed on how they would raise the kids, etc. So, I’m wondering what you guys think? Read what I had to say below.

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Religion, it’s so dividing. To say that most of them believe in some form of the same thing, they sure do know how to ostracize one another. Christians hating Christians, Jews shunning Jews, Muslims disowning Muslims. It’s shameful to see because religion should bring unity.

But I shall not expand on such things. What I’ve been thinking about is intermarriage, specifically in reference to religion. I’ve seen and heard of people marrying others outside of their religion, but it usually doesn’t last. Or when it does, I often wonder how. It seems that one would have to be slightly less committed to their religion to conjoin with that of another, especially those that are so contrasting.

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For example, a Baptist and Methodist marrying is not nearly as extreme as a Christian and Buddhist joining in matrimony. Even Christians and Muslims believe in the same God, with there being some differences between the two. But how can one who believes in, say, Jesus build a family with one who worships several gods?

I am not saying in any way that these groups cannot coexist with one another–I have friends across all the spectrums: religion, race, sexuality, age. But when you marry a person, you build your family’s foundation on shared values, correct? If a Christian believes that Jesus is the way and the Savior, how do they cope with the fact that, according to their beliefs, their Buddhist partner is going to hell? I don’t understand.

I only ask because I, myself, am a Christian and I love God with all of my heart. But I am also accepting of all people–obviously bigotry is not tolerated, but that’s not based on social attributes, but rather poor and ignorant attitudes. I love all people, as I believe Christ would have and does. Sure, I may not agree with everything that someone does or believes, but at the end of the day I do not think more highly of myself than I ought to and I judge not others.

Here is a South Indian & Jewish wedding. They had two ceremonies and both are beautiful; they look wonderful together!

Shwetha+Jeff Trailer from Simply Cinematic on Vimeo.

I am attracted to all races and ethnicities, all of them. *But at times, different racial backgrounds are accompanied with different religions. For example, I’ve noticed that several of the actors I find amazingly beautiful are Jewish, haha, e.g. Joseph Gordon Levitt, Jesse Eisenberg, the Savage brothers, Shia freakin’ LaBeaouf! Granted, they may not all practice Judaism–some may just be ethnically Jewish–but I’m trying to make a point.

*note* I know that people of the same race are not all members of the same religion. But let’s not pretend, for example, that it’s not more common for an Indian to be Hindu. I was just using this as an example.

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Kunal Nayyar and Utkarsh Ambudkar are heavenly, and though extremely presumptuous of me (I’m sorry) I could say that even of they don’t practice Hinduism, maybe their families do? Those are not traditions easily broken.

And the list goes on, so on and so forth. Christians, Muslims, Jews, Buddhists, Hindus… they’re all beautiful. But they all believe differently.

Do you convert? Blend? Become tolerant? I’m just curious as to what others may think.

I’d date someone of another religion. Would it last, I don’t know. Obviously, I’d figure that out before marriage, which many fail to do. But I’m with Jesus always and forever. No one and nothing can change that 🙂

What do you think??

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Quote 39: Be Like Christ.

 “Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 2:1-5

 

Whether you’re religious or not, or a follower of Christ, I still believe that these are great words to live by. Love one another, man.

<3 Lynella

Quote 22: Steve Jobs.

“The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work, and the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, and don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking, don’t settle.”- Steve Jobs

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Ex-Boyfriends. (Or Girlfriends, Whatever Fits)

Ex-Boyfriends. (Or Ex-Girlfriends, Whatever)

Exes. Gotta love ’em right? Or maybe it’s better that you don’t, seeing as you guys broke up and all- don’t want any problems arising. But, it’s always interesting when they reach out. Adding or messaging you on FB, texting you, if they still have your number, or emailing you. And email is usually only their option of choice when you’ve ensured that they couldn’t contact you on any of the other sites.

But, I’m not really here to rag on my ex-boyfriend, or even discuss him in much detail. I haven’t seen the guy since 2009 and I’ve only spoken to him on random occasions over the past 5 years- he likes to reach out from time to time. This time, he “was sending out an email and [my] email address popped up. [So, he] thought [he] would contact [me] and see how things are going.” If that’s a reason to reach out, sure go ahead. I emailed him back and said that I was fine. And that was that- for now anyway, who knows what the reply will be.

But, you want to know the best thing about this? When the message arrived in my inbox I was half asleep and knew I had to be dreaming. When I looked again it wasn’t there. But, I know what I saw and immediately went into search mode. After nearly giving up, I got up and logged into my computer. What did I find? -the email. Apparently Mail thought that it was junk and sent it to the spam folder. 

Oh technology, you humor me, as those were my thoughts exactly.

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MAGIC! :Rude

Man, oh man am I jammin’ right now! Thanks to iTunes’ radio Pop playlist, I just discovered the group MAGIC! and their song “Rude” and I’m in love. The song has a really cool vibe–being a reggae pop song and all–great vocals, and I enjoyed the music video as well.

Not to mention, the lead singer and song writer Nasri Atweh–as well as the other members–is easy on the eyes and has some major dance moves. I love to dance, watch others dance, and particularly watch people genuinely vibe to music with no intention of being noticed. Mr. Atweh has gotten my attention, hiiii 🙂 Lol. If you want to hear the acoustic version you can click here.

But this song also made me wonder: what do you do if your parent(s) don’t approve of the person you’re dating? I mean, if you’re a teenager and/or are still living in their house then I can see why you don’t really have a choice–their house, their rules. But if you’re an adult and they still don’t like them, what do you do? I assume most people don’t care and “marry [them] anyway!” Personally, I wouldn’t be able to do that. I value my parents’ opinion too much, and I’m sure if they didn’t approve there would be a valid reason. The dad in this video seems to think that the boyfriend is a bit of a rebel, and therefore not good enough for his daughter. Granted, the dad could also be a pretentious a-hole. Who knows?

Anyway, it is an interesting thought. What do you guys think? Would you get married anyway or cut your losses?

If you guys want to check out the band you can find them on Youtube and Twitter.

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Part II (On The Run)

Today I was driving back to my apartment and the radio was playing–as it does; and Beyoncé and Jay Z’s song, Part II (On The Run),  was on, and I began to jam–as I do. And out of the blue Jay Z says the craziest thing. It went something like this: “If you go to heaven and they bring me to hell, just sneak out and meet me–bring a box of L’s.” Um what?

Look sweetie, I love you and all but why in the world would I leave heaven—the ultimate paradise, the place of eternal glory—to come and meet you at the gates of hell? How about hell naw! I am not risking my place in heaven to see you in hell. As a matter of fact, why are you in hell anyway? Did I miss something while we were dating; were you living some sort of double life whilst I lived in oblivion? I don’t think I’d want to speak to you, let alone meet you somewhere if you end up in hell. Try again, kind sir. Or, not so kind sir.

Anyway, clearly I went a different direction with this song. I’m sure Bey and Jay Z were not quite talking about the literal heaven and hell, or even meant for this song to have the slightest hint of religious meaning. But, it does make you wonder—what are people willing to give up for love? Or, what are they willing to sacrifice for what they believe to be love?

Beyoncé starts the song by saying, “Who wants the perfect love story anyway? Who wants that hero love that saves the day anyway?” Um, me! CalLynn Lynell does. Sure, my love story doesn’t have to be written out like “The Notebook” or “Dear John,” but I’d like to think that, if given the option, I wouldn’t settle for a life “on the run.” I think all women fall for the “bad” guy at some point in their life; and sure, that could be fun for a moment in time, but I don’t want to settle down with him. No offense Mr. Bad Guy, but that girl deserves better than that. Heck, You deserve better than that too–being a bad guy. But girls wouldn’t have to settle for the bad guy if he tried harder to be good, or to reach that potential that he mentioned the girl saw in him . I guess not everyone has that option, though.

Anyway, I’m not sure what message this song is sending. Maybe that It’s okay to be with the bad guy because you’re in love? Or, maybe imperfect love can still be perfect if it’s your version of love? Who knows. But unlike Beyoncé, I will gladly “give it up [and] give it all away.” Sure, I see the potential in you, but it wouldn’t involve us being outlaws, my dear. And it certainly wouldn’t result in a saved seat in hell.

I’ll pass, thank you.

Underlying Truth.

Confessions: I Don’t Hate You.
I hate that I’m thinking about you, that I can go months without seeing you and be fine. But the one day that I see you, every unexplainable feeling returns.

I hate that I find you attractive, regardless of the fact that you are.

I hate that tiny mole on the right side of your face, because it’s cute and I remember it. Or the nearly unnoticeable dimple at the tip of your nose. I shouldn’t remember these things.

I hate that you have the face of a child. but you try to make up for it by growing minimal facial hair. Or that I notice.

I hate that there are memories of us, and though they may have been short and sweet, they are nonetheless engrained in my mind forever.

I hate that I held on to your blue bracelet for approx. two years, even though it had broken, because I didn’t feel as though it was mine to throw away. But, you gave away my pink bracelet without a second thought(so it seems). & I think that you mentioned it in front of me on purpose. I hate that I can recall that.

I also hate that I held on to the bear that you gave me until the week before I moved out of my house (3 months ago) because something told me (in addition to my mom and sister) that holding on to it would be meaningful someday, or that I’ve now given it away. Or the fact that I even care.

I dislike that you’ve changed. But the newer you is slightly attractive.
I hate that you dated her. I hate that you loved her. But, even more so, I hate that it bothers me.

I hate that if you got married to her, I know I wouldn’t be okay with it; I don’t even know if i could happily attend your wedding. But I hate even more that I wouldn’t be happy at any wedding of yours involving someone else.

I hate that I saw you recently and I didn’t get to say hello. I hate even more that it probably didn’t cross your mind.

I went home and thought about you. I became nostalgic and I remembered our innocence. A boy with a crush, a girl without a care. Eventually i grew to like you. I took you for granted because I assumed you’d always be there. Now I know how it feels to be on the receiving end, and I’m sorry for that.

I hate that I dreamt about you the night before I left. You’d written me a letter/email and expressed in grave detail how you felt. Whether it was good or bad, I’m not sure, but it was nice to hear from you.

I hate that I awakened and looked directly at my phone because I allowed myself to believe that the figment of my subconscious became a reality.

I hate that I miss you and I don’t know why— There should be nothing to miss.

I hate that I may love you, and I don’t know how— I mean really, how is that possible?

I hate that you are my only exception— The Only Exception.

& I hate that although I’d never want you to see this, I need you to see it and know it all the same.

But most of all, I hate that I could do any and everything but hate you.