It seems like only yesterday that we were telling one another Happy New Year and setting our goals for 2016. Yet, we’ve already reached the halfway mark for January, and February is merely 8 days away! I cannot believe how quickly the time is passing and how much has already happened. I turned 25! (dear Lort, lol); I made the very grown up decision to leave a job that I was unhappy with and got two amazing job offers–I only applied at these two places; and then made the even more adult-like decision to take the job that would offer more experience, flexibility and bank –almost double what I was making before!
As all of these wonderful things come into fruition, I know that there will only be more to come, and God is simply preparing me for the type of year and life he has planned for me. I’m ready for my hobby to become my career; I’m ready to be in the healthiest, most fit shape of my life; & mama ain’t no beggar, but I’m definitely down for a male companion/boyfriend/hubby/all of the above! Haha! But seriously, guys??
But in preparation for all new things, the old habits have to go and changes must be implemented. Change isn’t change until you change. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. You know that, I know that, but it none of it matters if we don’t act upon it.
Philippians 4: 6&7 (NKJV)
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.
Let your heart and mind be guarded. Put your trust in God and allow him to guide your footsteps. Every day, the intent must be there:
Live YOUR life to the best of YOUR ability and do everything with and in love!
I hope you guys are enjoying the new year and making every effort to make every day the best day of your life. Be sure to stay in touch this year and we’ll keep each other motivated and encouraged on this journey!
In other news, I celebrated my 25th in Atlanta! If you wanna see what we got up to, be sure to watch the video below and subscribe to my YouTube channel for future vids 🙂
Hey guys! How’s it going? I have some fun, new information for you and I’m sure you may have guessed it from the title of this post. Yes, you read it correctly, ya girl now has a YouTube Channel! I finally took the plunge and decided to add video footage as another outlet for everything that’s going on in this brain of mine. The videos will include a variety of things, as this blog does–beauty, trends, life & everything else! I love the beauty and fashion industry; my interests in fitness and health are expanding; I’ve been attempting to do more activities and travel more places so that there’s more to my lifestyle than work, sleep, and food, lol; and societal/cultural issues and pop culture will forever hold a place in my heart. So, if you guys want to keep up with me that way, feel free to head of there and subscribe! I’m working on the length of the videos–yall know I love to talk–but I’d say they’re pretty interesting. The most recent video is below & it’s a makeup tutorial on how to achieve a great look with very few, non-fancy products e.g. M.A.C–whom I love!
Feel free to spread the word and leave any comments or questions under this post! As you know, I love you all. I pray that you are all living, laughing and loving wonderfully.
Hi guys! First and foremost, HAPPY NEW YEAR! I pray that you and your families began the year 2015 beautifully and are continuing on a path of joy and happiness as the days progress. I thought I’d give you guys an update on myself, my life goals and the blog’s projection for this year. But first, here’s a few snapshots of how I spent the last couple of months of 2014!
I have had this blog for about 2 years now, but I’ve only recently began to put efforts into making it function full-time–with some slacking during the last couple of months. I love writing and having the ability to share my ideas and stories with you guys; and although this isn’t my full-time job, or even profitable at this point, I do plan to put more energy into creating great content.
Blogging Goal #1
I have set a goal to gain at least 1000 subscribers thisyear! So yay for what’s to come!
Blogging Goal #2
In addition to the things that I already talk about, this site will begin to include posts about health, food, beauty, fashion, and a bit (more) of pop culture. If you’re unfamiliar with my previous content, I usually write about life events, personal affairs/interactions and musical favorites–with some inspirational quotes and personal photography mixed in.
Blogging Goal #3
In my efforts of creating more content, I vow to post at least two times a week. Obviously, I intend to do more, but I will not let a week go by without posting at least twice. I will also be amping up my contributions to Pinterest, Tumblr, Instagram, Bloglovin, Facebook, and possibly Youtube–big maybe there. So, be sure that you’re following me on all of the listed social media sites by clicking on the links above or the icons located on my site’s main page.
Blogging Goal #4
This doesn’t have much to do with you guys, but I will be attempting to learn more about SEO, optimization, content creation, social media marketing, and other boring stuff that you all probably don’t care about! In addition to that, I have hopes of improving my writing. I’ll show those graduate programs that I didn’t need them to succeed! –You guys have no idea how many times I have reconsidered going back to school, yet again, simply due to the fact that society makes it seem nearly impossible to survive without an advanced degree! But I CAN DO IT!
As I have mentioned before, I have been quite unhappy with the way my life was going. I am dissatisfied with my physical appearance, my emotional state and my relationship with God. One of my main goals this year is to focus on not just my weight but my overall health–I am extremely overweight. Should I tell you guys how much? Sure, why not, this is a safe space– I am roughly 220 lbs. 5’5, 23, no kids, but 220 pounds. Not cool, man. As a step in the right direction I got a gym membership. To date, I’ve been quite often, but I’ve used my busy schedule as an excuse this week. Must get back to it!
Life Goal # 1
Read my bible and pray every day. Although I should be doing this already, I don’t; and it’s quite ridiculous on my end. Sure, I may say a quick prayer every morning and sometimes in the afternoon, but I don’t spend enough time with God. So, I will be certain strengthen my walk with God.
Life Goal #2
Hit the gym at least 3x a week. I will be pushing for 5, but three is a must! I’m going to up my cardio so that I can lost fat before gaining muscle. I also have to do more research about working out, healthy eating, and weight training.
Life Goal #3
Drink more water!! I’ve purchased 32 oz. mason jars and hopefully this will help me keep up with my daily intake.
Life Goal #4
Eliminate all fast food! Now don’t get me wrong, this won’t be easy because grabbing something on the go is much easier and more convenient than dining in or preparing food beforehand, but it must be done. This will not only help with my attempts to eat healthier and portion control, but it’ll also boost my savings 😉
Life Goal #5
Pay off my credit cards!! Simple as that, really.
Life Goal #6
Leave Banana Republic, unfortunately, and establish myself within a career. Although retail can be entertaining on most days, and I enjoy the people I work with–for the most part– it is time for me to go! Remember that misery I said would creep up? She’s making her way towards me and I must avoid her at all costs.
Life Goal #7
BE HAPPY! Whether that be within myself or with others, happiness should run through me at all times!
And I’m sure there are a few more things that I’m missing or haven’t quite thought of, but that’s the gist of it. Obviously I will be keeping you guys up to date with how things are going for me, and I will be sure to write a post recapping everything at the end of the year. To some people it may not seem like a lot, and to others it may be too much. But, I think that I can and will achieve everything that I have set for myself in this coming year. I wish you all the best in your endeavors and be sure to keep me up to date with what you guys have going on as well!
What are some of your New Year’s resolutions and life goals? Leave your comments and feedback below!
As I’m sure most of you have noticed, I chopped off all of my natural hair. Any other time, this wouldn’t be a big deal, as I’m always cutting my hair after I get bored with it, but this was a bit different. After cutting it, I got the usual remarks:
“Omg, why’d you cut all of your hair off?”
“Omg I can’t believe you cut it! Whyyy? I loved your hair.”
or my favorite,
“But it was so pretty and so long!”
Thanks guys. I’m sure it’s so short and so ugly now–appreciate all of your love and support.
In most instances, I don’t care what people think about me or my hair because frankly, it’s nobody else’s business. If I wanted to go bald it shouldn’t mean a dang thing to anybody else or their mama! But this time, the haircut meant something. It was difficult for me to cut it because I knew that if I did, when I did, I would have to make it worth while. If not, what would have been the point? Here’s what I sent to my mom and sisters in a group text, you know, just to avoid any unwanted commentary whilst already in a vulnerable state:
“…I’m on a journey and I had to do something for myself. Over the past 5 years I’ve gained 70lbs. I fluctuate between 214 and 220 right now. I didn’t feel pretty anymore. My face is round, I know. I don’t need any reminders. I was eating out way to much, spending tons of money and shopping unnecessarily. I’ve been being lazy and not going after my dreams. So I cut my hair. I cut my hair because it’s a part of my journey to change. Mentally, spiritually, emotionally and physically…So, not that it matters or I owe anybody an explanation, but there ya go.”
In late October of 2014, I began my journey–one that required I start anew. These past couple of years have been interesting for me. I gained tons of weight, dropped out of graduate school twice, voluntarily moved back in with my parents and am currently using my hard-earned degree to simply work in retail–something had to change. Don’t get me wrong, retail is cool, but that is not what I had planned for my life; and although I get a kick out of it most days, it will soon grow into a place of misery. I went from living life in NYC, to settling back down in rural, South Louisiana. As I’m sure you can imagine, internally I was losing my shxt! So, I made a decision: I am going to do what I love to do and not settle for anything less than that! I am not only going to learn to love myself for who and what I am, but grow into an even better version of that and continue to love her just as much! & as my hair grows back and changes over the years, I intend to grow and change with it.
So, to any and everyone who asked or was wondering, that’s why I cut my hair–not that it’s any of your concern, my dear.
Remember, grow to love and appreciate yourself because “you see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway.” -Mother Teresa
Are any of you going through a transitional phase in your lives? Have any of you struggled with or been successful in weight loss? If so, please feel free to comment below and share your stories, tips and words of encouragement!
“Just because I liked something at one point in time doesn’t mean I’ll always like it, or that I have to go on liking it at all points in time as an unthinking act of loyalty to who I am as a person, based solely on who I was as a person. To be loyal to myself is to allow myself to grow and change, and challenge who I am and what I think.”- Jarod Kintz
“The only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work, and the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking, and don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking, don’t settle.”- Steve Jobs
Yes, I probably said what you think I said: that I hate the saying/phrase/wording/whatever, “natural hair.” Do I hate naturals? No. I am one. But, saying it like that has always bothered me. I mean, think about how ridiculous that really sounds–I am wearing my natural hair. For perspective, I would never say: Ooh girl, I’m wearing my natural Black skin from now on. Like, what?
My hair has been in its natural state for 4 years now, as of June 19th. I’ve cut it on several different occasions, dyed it once, and braided it up time upon time again. I love it and I would never, ever in life relax it again! But, I have always thought that having to state that I “went natural” or “am natural” was kind of silly–no one else has to say that about their hair or anything else.
(One week after I cut my hair in 2010)
(One day after I chopped it all off again in 2012 because an experimental haircut didn’t go as planned! –Yes that is Nick Jonas on my door and I was def. in college. Judge all you want! Nick, knows what’s up. Lol)
When I first cut my hair, it was such a huge ordeal. Not necessarily for me, but for everyone around me. But, that’s another story for another post (if you’d like to know about the screaming, crying, yelling, and all out affair that involved me “having permission” to cut it at the age of 19, feel free to let me know! 🙂 ) Unlike a lot of naturals, I didn’t transition at all. I went straight for the BC (big chop). I cut it all by myself–and every other time to follow. People would say, Omg I didn’t know you were going natural! or What made you decide to go natural? or Omg I love your hair like that! & to that, I simply say thank you because I absolutely appreciate it. But what’s interesting is that when I got a relaxer in the 6th grade I said it once and it was never mentioned again.
(I’m thinking this was after a fresh relaxer in the 9th grade? Not entirely sure, though)
Those who have relaxed hair never have to say so. No one ever says, I love your relaxed hair (or permed hair as some say, which isn’t actually correct), or What made you get a relaxer every four weeks?, or Oh no, I’ve actually been relaxed for 7 years now!If anything, shouldn’t that be the thing that’s announced? Having my hair in its natural state is like having the brown skin on my body. It’s what I am and what I was born with, so why must I announce it as such? And you know what really trips me out? When people say:
Them: “Omg how did you get your hair like that?”
Me: “Well ,I just put water in it today, I didn’t really do anything.
Them: But noooo, how’d you get it to curl like that?
Me: Oh I didn’t do anything, I just wet it this morning. This is what it looks like. *cue nervous laughter*
Them: Oh come on girl, you had to put something in it, huh?
Me: No ma’am, this is just water. I use a few things sometimes, but I didn’t have time today and I haven’t done it in like a week. *backs away from this awkward conversation*
Like, I can’t have naturally curly hair? I have to be using Kinky Curly or something? Chill, ma’am.
(My hair when I actually do something to it. Twists–which are worn for at least 2 weeks–and the twist out)
And lastly, my biggest pet peeve of all: “NATURAL HAIR ISN’T FOR EVERYBODY.” If I was as rude as the people who say this, I’d politely tell them to go eff themselves. How dare you? What the heck does that even mean–the hair that grows out of my hair isn’t for me? When God made me, he somehow managed to assign me the wrong hair type? Okay, thanks for that.
No! You are absolutely incorrect. My hair is mine and you have no right to say that it’s not for everybody. Personally, I’ve never been told that it didn’t work for me, but I have had people say that they wished other people’s looked like mine or that they “rocked it the way that I do,” because it isn’t for everyone. I’ve even heard women who wear their hair in its natural state say it. Shame on you, ma’am. Shame. On. You. No one tells women with straight hair that it’s not for them. Or women with weave, or dyes. Or women of other races that their hair isn’t cool. Why the freak should I be concerned about wearing my hair? IT’S MINE! & I SHOULDN’T HAVE TO ANNOUNCE IT!
But, anyway. I understand that it’s a more complicated and in-depth discussion than that. I know that everything ties back to slavery, and segregation, and changing not just your hair, but maybe even your identity to simply be accepted. I understand that it’s a “natural hair movement” because women are regaining the confidence to be who they are. I get it and I understand.
All I’m saying is that I don’t like it. Having to announce what I am is dumb. I don’t do it for anything else and I shouldn’t have to do it for this. But that’s just me.