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It’s A New Year!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!


It seems like only yesterday that we were telling one another Happy New Year and setting our goals for 2016. Yet, we’ve already reached the halfway mark for January, and February is merely 8 days away! I cannot believe how quickly the time is passing and how much has already happened. I turned 25! (dear Lort, lol); I made the very grown up decision to leave a job that I was unhappy with and got two amazing job offers–I only applied at these two places; and then made the even more adult-like decision to take the job that would offer more experience, flexibility and bank –almost double what I was making before!

As all of these wonderful things come into fruition, I know that there will only be more to come, and God is simply preparing me for the type of year and life he has planned for me. I’m ready for my hobby to become my career; I’m ready to be in the healthiest, most fit shape of my life; & mama ain’t no beggar, but I’m definitely down for a male companion/boyfriend/hubby/all of the above! Haha! But seriously, guys??

But in preparation for all new things, the old habits have to go and changes must be implemented. Change isn’t change until you change. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. You know that, I know that, but it none of it matters if we don’t act upon it.

Philippians 4: 6&7 (NKJV)

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Let your heart and mind be guarded. Put your trust in God and allow him to guide your footsteps. Every day, the intent must be there:

Work Harder

Grow Stronger

Eat Better

Pray Longer

Live YOUR life to the best of YOUR ability and do everything with and in love!

I hope you guys are enjoying the new year and making every effort to make every day the best day of your life. Be sure to stay in touch this year and we’ll keep each other motivated and encouraged on this journey!

In other news, I celebrated my 25th in Atlanta! If you wanna see what we got up to, be sure to watch the video below and subscribe to my YouTube channel for future vids 🙂

 Lynella!

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Was NBC's 'The Wiz Live!' Too Black?

The Wiz Live!


If you guys didn’t know, The Wiz Live! premiered on NBC last night. It was a new adaptation of the 1975 Broadway musical, The Wiz’, a more soulful version of The Wonderful Wizard of Oz, starring Michael Jackson, Lena Horne, Diana Ross, and Richard Pryor. I haven’t watched The Wiz Live! yet, but I heard it was great. The musical featured well renown rapper, Common; Glee’s Amber Riley; Uzo Aduba, from Orange Is The New Black; singers, Ne-Yo & Mary J. Blige; actress, Queen Latifah; and several others.

Because I didn’t watch the show I wasn’t attentive to its trending comments on Twitter. But today, I watched Philip DeFranco’s video on Facebook entitled: “If You’re Offended By This I Hate You” –and my guy makes a valid point.

I tend to steer clear of racial discussions because no one enters into the conversation with the intent to understand; they only want their one-sided opinion to be heard. This is a prime example of that.

“OMG Black people would be so upset if there was an ‘all-white’ Wiz.”

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Are these people not watching television? Have they not been watching television since its existence? I’m not the biggest BET fan, because quite frankly the channel sucks now, but there is a reason it exists. Robert L. Johnson created Black Entertainment Television because there were no other networks aimed at African-American people. I don’t care what anyone says, people need something to relate to. There’s no need for segregation and exclusion, correct; but people need to feel as though they are a part of the masses. & not to get into anything, but it’s the reason that statements like “Black Lives Matter” is relevant. It’s because somewhere along the way, someone made them feel as though they didn’t…or that they mattered, but not as much. Although I don’t post the hashtag on Twitter or Facebook, I get it–I recognize its purpose. And that’s the major problem, people refuse to believe that discrepancies exist. The Wonderful Wizard of Oz was a beautiful movie, but it was released in 1939, long before Black people were showing up in prominent roles on television– especially as something positive, or hopeful, or imaginative. Viola Davis made that speech because in all of the 67 years that the Emmy Award has been awarded, this was the FIRST year that a Black woman won. That’s nearly seventy years, guys.

For someone to even think of saying that there should be an ‘all-white’ Wiz means that they’re clearly delusional. Or maybe they’ve never actually seen The Wizard of Oz?

If you guys are interested in watching the show in its entirety, it’s linked above. I’ll be sure to check it out and you should too. Maybe then you’ll see why this version was just as wonderful as the original!

 Lynella

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Are You In Love With Cocaine?

“I’m in love with the coco.” Better yet, “I’m in love with the [cocaine]!” Uh yeah, ridiculous, I know, but somehow no one else seems to think so. Somehow America and the rest of the world made this asinine song soar to the top of the charts. & although some people may have addressed the possible glorification of the usage and selling of cocaine, I’m not sure if anyone questioned the consumer. Why are we supporting this song? Because the beat is good?

O.T. Genasis’ song “Coco,” which is an outright reference to selling cocaine, became extremely popular upon release, and the Twitter, Vine, and Youtube communities went insane. The video has 134,462,309 views as of date and nearly 1 million likes. Fortunately, it has 162,000+ dislikes, meaning some of you are in your right minds, but unfortunately that ratio is very low. In the video below, I comically address the issues that stem from this song. So, be sure to watch and let me guys know what you think!

& seriously guys, since when are we all in love with cocaine?

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You Don't Want Equality!

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Over the years I have noticed a few things about people who talk about promoting change and equality. Specifically, I have encountered several of these people and groups in high school/college–I graduated in ’09 and ’12. But in the end, I am often confused as to what their end goal is. I mean sure they say it’s to create opportunities for their specified group, making them equal to everyone outside of the group, but is that really the case? Is the end goal truly complete integration?

People often complain about certain social structures and the discrepancies between social groups, but they always complain to and discuss within their group and not directly to the “other.” When I was a graduate student at Fordham University, my professor asked me if I was in any social clubs, e.g. BSU, aka Black Student Union. I replied, “I don’t do those,” and of course he immediately questioned why. I expressed that although I understand the purpose of the separated groups and the way in which they are conveniently formed, I’d be more obliged to join a diversity group instead—all inclusive and having various issues addressed amongst one another. He understood; and you know what else he told me? As a man of mixed race, Dominican and African-American, he happened to be the sponsor of two social groups: the Hispanic group and the African-American group (I don’t remember their acronyms, sorry). One day, he proposed to each group the opportunity of joining as one. He explained the advantages of the collaboration and how they could unite resources, expand their reach, discuss issues that each of them face separately, together, and possibly with one another, etc. Their response: no, we want to stay within our own groups; we don’t need to join with them.

Seriously people? I call bullshxt. We protest equality, we say we want integration and unity, but when the time comes we show our true colors—we really want superiority. We want our chance to “be the man.”

Yes, I know that some people are expressing themselves and joining with others to create change– I salute them and this isn’t for them. But if you immediately become defensive, this is for you. I need you to truly evaluate what it is that you want. When you speak about change and equality are you always referring to people as “them,” “they” and “those.” When you cry out in outrage is only to those who look like you or is it to everyone? & are you always on the defense?

And to those who complain about people who are actually in these groups: have you ever tried to join one? Have you ever attended a function or event that was directed toward a cause that may not be directly linked to you? Do you listen when these people are speaking, or do you immediately write them off because you assume that what they have to say isn’t relevant to you? Something that I appreciate about LGTBQ groups is that they usually present their groups as a Gay-Straight Alliance. They understand the importance in the ally.

Look, I get it, I promise I do. When I went to a student diversity leadership conference in high school, I broke down like a baby in front of my peers–it was only about 8 people & 2-3 were teachers. I didn’t realize how much certain behaviors affected me and that people’s ignorant comments and snide remarks bothered me so much. But, so many of them behaved in that way due to the lack of exposure to people that didn’t look like or grow up like them. &People can’t learn about something if no one ever teaches them–that’s where you come in. You know the White guys in high school never knew that Black women are not born with straight hair, but have to chemically alter it every month. Lol. But why would they? –especially before the “natural hair movement!” And that sort of thing is trivial, so imagine other things.

 It’s unfortunate that we don’t know how to speak to one another. It is unfortunate that over the years so much anger has been festering and tension has been building. But I ask that you try a little harder. Try harder to communicate with the person on the outside. Or when someone on the inside invites you to see the view, go and check it out! That way, there will be no longer be an outside and inside. It’ll be one view, one goal. And this is NOT limited to race; it’s just what I experience the most. This spans the entire spectrum people. You will never know that my cause is your cause if we don’t join in efforts together. 

If you want equality, prove it.

Lynella!

Repost: A Note to Christians

This is a great post in response to the Bruce Jenner, now Caitlyn Jenner, buzz. Many people often spew hateful, derogatory things “in the name of Jesus.” But I’m sorry to say, that is not the way of the Jesus I love and the God I serve. Jesus loves us all…quite literally all of us. If you don’t believe that to be true, then you my friend are not a Christian.

Please give the article a read, as it is short and to the point.

Source: Christians, Be Careful What You Say On Facebook

Jean-Jacques Rousseau : Quote 54.

Hey everyone! How are you guys doing? I’ve been MIA, I know, I know & I apologize. I pray that you all have been well! Here is a thought for the day:

I ran across the quote below in an email that I’d save from my previous blog posts and thought I would share it again. I discovered this quote as an undergrad in a political science course that focused on philosophers like Jean-Jacques Rousseau; the passage below the quote was my initial reaction.

“I expect I shall not easily be forgiven for taking the side I have dared to take. Clashing head in with all that is today admired by men, I can only expect universal blame: and it is not for having been honored by the approbation of a few Wise men, that I should expect the approbation of the Public: Thus I have chosen my side; I do not care whether I please Wits or the Fashionable. There will always be men destined to be subjugated by the opinions of their century, their Country, their Society: Some men today act the part of a Freethinker and the Philosopher who, for some reason, would have been fanatics at the time of the League. One ought not to write for such Readers when one wants to live beyond one’s century.” – Jean-Jacques Rousseau

Not certain what this is in reference to yet, being that I’m in the preface of the book, ha, but it made me think of being a Christian. Not a poser for Christ, but someone who is a genuine Christian, Christ seeker, and lover of God..especially in today’s society. Oh the world we currently live in, sweet children; say a prayer.

At the time I applied the quote to religion–specifically Christianity, as I am a follower of Christ–and I still believe that to be true, but honestly it’s applicable to everything. No matter what, hold fast to what you believe in. Make choices based upon your own morality and your personal truth. Unfortunately society operates as one big groupthink ” a psychological phenomenon that occurs within a group of people, in which the desire for harmony or conformity in the group results in an irrational or dysfunctional decision-making outcome” for those of you who don’t know what that is. Sure, we should all be influenced by one another, and we all work together to function and coexist as a society; but, that doesn’t mean that you should change your values and beliefs on the basis of what others believe to be true. What do you believe to be true?

Live for that.

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Family, Gotta Love 'Em: Rachel & Photographs.

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I looked up the definition of family and this is what dictionary.com gave me:any group of persons closely related by blood, as parents, children, uncles, aunts, and cousins. For some people, their family dynamics consist of just that and nothing more. They speak to one another due to obligation; they tolerate each other because “blood is thicker than water” –whatever that’s actually supposed to mean. If you ask me, having a great & reliable family is a wonderful thing. And even when you have someone who’s not the best at their role, but they’re putting forth the effort, that’s fine–I would take the attempt over the lack thereof. 

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Fortunately, I was blessed with an amazing family. My parents are more wonderful than you could imagine, my sisters are my best friends, my brother-in-law is basically the brother that I never had, and my nieces and nephew are God’s most beautiful blessings–come on, you’ve seen them! My extended family, on the other hand, is a bit of a mix. Some of them are cool, some…not so much. But, it’s okay because I don’t depend on them and they’re doing enough for me. To those that do and offer more, thank you!

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Rachel is one of those people. She’s my first cousin and one of my mom’s many nieces. She and I weren’t very close when we were younger. In fact, I didn’t like her very much because she would always call my little sister stupid–not sure why, as she’s quite smart–and behaved quite cruel towards us . But in retrospect, the kid was dealing with a lot. Thankfully, we’re closer now. She practically lives at my house on the weekends and sometimes during the week–which is funny because we’re all 20 and over now. She’ll be invited to all of our family functions, even when some other family members aren’t, and she’s sure to be a bridesmaid in my wedding.

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I’ve watch her grow over the years, and I love her dearly. I respect the passion she has for her craft and how she attempts to make everyone love music and the clarinet just as much as she does–I could never! But I listen to her because I know that not everyone will, and she definitely deserves it. I think it’s funny when people deem others as weird or strange because they’re interested in things that aren’t mainstream. Whatever, dude! Love what you love, and be who you are. Beethoven was probably pretty strange back in his day, but when people heard his music they could do nothing but pay attention.

You never know when you’re encountering a Beethoven, people, so be sure to pay attention.

Love you, Rae!

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A big thanks to Rachel for letting me photograph her! Be sure to follow her on Instagram @rae_harvey!

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Nick Jonas: I Still Get Jealous, 10 Years Later.

I love this man, I swear I do. And to all of you bandwagon fans: it’s okay, I welcome you aboard–I mean, I do understand after all. 

 

Nick Jonas, God’s wonderful blessing to us all, has returned to the music scene, once again, with a full-on solo career. As most of you know, he was previously in the band Jonas Brothers, with his brothers Kevin and Joe, and briefly entertained a side project, also known as Nick Jonas & the Administration. The three also starred in a few Disney films, like Camp Rock, and had their own television show, Jonas L.A–which occasionally featured their little brother, Frankie. Now little Nicky isn’t so little anymore, and I must say, both Hollywood and social media are losing their shxt!

Things seemed to pick up a bit when Nick released his song Jealous, which, surprisingly, has an awesome R&B vibe. I remember first hearing the song on the radio and not recognizing that it was him–and then obviously freaking out when I realized it was! Personally, I find the music video a bit silly and ridiculous, but it takes nothing away from the song–and it doesn’t hurt that the man behind the voice is basically an angel.

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People later went crazy because…well, you saw the pics! Like I said, Nick grew up and he let the world know it! After first posting some personal pictures showing a bit of bare chest, and later posing shirtless for a few other magazines, my boy took home the prize by doing a shoot for Flaunt Magazine that was nearly identical to the 1992 Calvin Klein shoot of the beautiful Mark Wahlberg–check out his accent in the video below! #throwbackthursday for sure!

I won’t post any more of the pictures because you can search for those yourselves–and my mother happens to read this blog! But you get the drift; times, they are a changin’.

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Nick just released a new album entitled, Nick Jonas; he’s one of the stars in the drama television series, Kingdom, which airs on Audience TV; he just told the world on the Wendy Williams’s talk show that he’s no longer a virgin–this really only matters to you if you cared about them back then and were aware that he and his brothers wore purity rings; and he’s even dating Miss Universe. Miss freaking Universe people! Recently, he released a super awesome gospel version of his song Jealous, which is all of the buzz and surpassed 3 million views today. Check it out below!

I remember when people would laugh at me for liking the Jonas Brothers and even more so for loving Nick. Granted, he is a bit younger than me, and I did continue to like them well into my adulthood–you know, when they were a bit played out. But what did that matter? Don’t believe me? Check this:

When I was 18, my then boyfriend got me several lovely gifts for Valentines Day: A singing stuffed animal–classic; the new India Arie album at the time–because I love her of course; and dinner and a movie– you know, the norm. Oh wait! I forgot to mention that he also gifted me with two very large posters of both The Jonas Brothers posing for Rolling Stone and one of Nick posing alone. Yes people, it was something serious! I still have them and I will never regret bringing them to college and hanging them up in my dorm room.

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(Yes, that really is me & I was super hot, I know…let’s move on! Here is my dorm room freshman year, 2009. Tinkerbell was for my roommate.)

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But as they say, “haters gonna hate & ainters gonna aint,” people! (Shoutout to the new Seth Rogan and James Franco movie, The Interview! It’ll be released on Christmas Day.) No matter what, I will always be a Nick Jonas fan. I’ve been down since day one and that is never gonna change. And since I know he’ll never see this, we can totes still get married and have the cutest babies! Ha! If you want to see the actual posters, they’ll be on my instagram. Be sure to check out Nick’s new album on iTunes, follow him on twitter, instagram, and subscribe to his Vevo YouTube Channel. Until then folks, try not to get too jealous, eh?

xoxo

Lynella!

 

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McDonald's, Hire Better People! :Racist Lady.

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McDonald’s, McDonald’s, you have to do better. I mean, you guys should just do better in general because your food isn’t nutritious, or real for that matter, but that’s not the topic at hand here. I chose to eat your fake food and that’s on me, but I would prefer not deal with your rude, racist employees and their commentary.

Funny thing is, most people will assume that this is about a White person– it’s not. It’s actually about a young Black woman who, I guess, decided it was okay to share her grievances with me because she assumed I’d relate? Negative, lady.

Now, for a quick recap of the night:

McDonald’s Employee: Hi, what would you like to order?

Me: Can I get a 20 piece Chicken McNugget Meal? (don’t judge me, I hadn’t eaten all day!)

McDonald’s Employee: What sauce?

Me: Sweet & Sour and BBQ

McDonald’s Employee: (insert random total) please drive to the first window.

Me: oh, I asked for the meal ma’am…

McDonald’s Employee: The 20 piece doesn’t come with a meal, only two medium drinks and two medium fries.

Me: ummm okay, well I’ll just add a medium drink and a medium fry to that please.

McDonald’s Employee: (with attitude): You’ll have to tell them to add it in at the next window because I already put your order in and saved it before you said that.

Me: (thinks to myself) are you freaking kidding me? You’re ridiculous and you can keep your ‘tude, booboo because you messed up the order, not me! (actually says aloud): Um, okay…thank you.

So, I drive up to the first window and of course I’m annoyed; but, I immediately realize that the woman who’s taking my money isn’t the same lady who took my order. I kindly ask her to add my items, pay and drive to the next window. Here, I meet homegirl. The conversation went like this:

Me: Hello.

McDonald’s Employee: ughhhh I can’t stand White people.

Me: …

McDonald’s Employee: I know that had to be a White man, couldnda been nobody but a White man.

Me: …

McDonald’s Employee: (hands me my food) Enjoy your night.

Me: Thank you.

(drives away)

Um, I’m sorry what? What just happened ma’am?

From what I gathered, this lovely McDonald’s employee greeted the customer behind me with the same outstanding customer service that she gave me. But, unlike myself, that customer probably gave her a hard time for possibly getting his order wrong. But, what do I know; this is total speculation. That guy could have been a super rude a-hole and she had every right to be upset. What she didn’t have the right to do was 1. Assume that he was White 2. Blame his attitude or response on his “Whiteness” and 3. Group all White people together due to his behavior. FYI lady, that makes you a racist.

I’m going to assume that she’s either not very good at her job or she was having a really off night because my service was terrible. When I asked for a 20 McNugget meal, your job was to tell me that you didn’t have one before not after I ordered. You’re also supposed to check with me to make sure that my order is correct before submitting it. Duh. Also, telling me that you hate White people really isn’t something that I need to know or care to hear. And just because I’m Black doesn’t mean you get to assume that I agree– I don’t.

I never know what people have experienced in their lives, and I try not to completely judge people on their ignorance. But, regardless of anything else racism is never okay. I always say: if someone of a different race said the same thing to you about your own race, would that be okay? No. You’d be quick to call them a racist and accuse them of reinforcing negative stereotypes. So, don’t so the same thing. Don’t be that guy. –or woman in this case.

So, what do you think? Was I over reacting, or do you agree that she was absolutely ridiculous and out of line?

Singers, Actors, Celebrities: Entertainers.

I typed a super long post, vented, then changed my mind about the format. So, here are my thoughts in listed format. This is in response to comments made on this video.

People are idiots, we all know this.

It’s stupid to try to spread positivity with negativity– that’s counterproductive.

Yes, first world problems are a real thing, but that does not mean that my problems/issues/hurt/pain are not valid. Other people around the world are suffering and most times it’s at a magnitude that most could not possibly comprehend. Even our fellow Americans deal with daily hardship and most people are not aware. I know that children in South America (see I said a something other than Africa, unlike most people) are starving, and please believe that I care and hope to contribute in any way that I can. But, if I’m having a bad day, let me have my freaking bad day! Dang! It’s what’s relative to the person’s life at the moment and not their fault. You’re upset that people in a developed, technologic world have developed world problems? That’s stupid.

You cannot blame others for issues/situations that do not directly relate to them. e.g. someone who decided to make Youtube videos for a living has NOTHING to do with photojournalists being beheaded in other countries. Those are global, societal, and governmental issues.

The argument that ‘x career,’ e.g. nurse practitioner, is better than ‘y career,’ e.g. entertainer, and therefore deems the person in ‘y career’ lazy, selfish, self-indulgent, vain, ungrateful, and unworthy of their success and/or popularity is crap.

Yes, being a nurse practitioner, doctor, and lawyer are all amazing and require hard work, diligence, and time. & yes, it is absolutely necessary that these people exist. But, WTH does that have to do with anything else?

Doctors chose to be doctors. Lawyers chose to go to law school, pass the bar and practice law. Cops chose to join law enforcement. Okay? Your point? Chefs cook, singers sing, architects plan and design buildings, athletes play sports, teachers educate our children, garbage men pick up trash, and politicians run the world. These are what we call jobs, people– we all have them. 

When someone makes a certain amount of money for what they do, you shouldn’t attack them. If you want to see change in the world, impact society; change the minds of your fellow human beings. But criticizing Lebron James–who I’m not the biggest fan of– for the millions that he makes is not only hate directed in the wrong direction, but it’s something that will change absolutely nothing.

Wrigley, Fenley and Yankee stadiums don’t sell themselves out. As my college professor once said, you can never be upset with a MLB player because he is only making the millions that you give him. Also, his millions are well deserved; he works extremely hard to maintain his strength, endurance, and longevity. Athletic careers are lucrative, but they don’t last forever. Once it’s over, it’s over.

Doctors are there to heal us. Nurses take care of us. Entertainers ENTERTAIN US! Like, what else do you think this is? I’m sure that after that long 12 hour shift, Ms. Susan, the nurse, wouldn’t mind relaxing on her couch with a bottle of wine and her subscription of Netflix.

The Housewives of all the cities are ridiculous and the show is insanity. But, people enjoy it and that’s an issue you have to take up with them. Sure, you may not feel like what Kim Kardashian does is relevant to society, but clearly she’s relevant to someone. They’re not Keeping Up With the Kardashians for nothin’.

We are all individual beings with individual talents. Not everyone is here to travel abroad and document the tragedies taking place in underdeveloped countries. If that’s what you do, awesome! DO YOU! I appreciate you just the same. But do NOT try to discredit what I do because it’s different from what you do. I mean, I quite enjoy music. So, thank you to all of the musicians, singers, songwriters, producers, etc. out there. My life wouldn’t be the same without you.

Moral of the story: don’t be an idiot. Don’t belittle others because you don’t like what they do. Don’t attack people you don’t know, especially via the dang-on internet, and infer that their lives are meaningless and useless. Don’t assume that because someone isn’t doing heart surgery, what they’re doing isn’t life-changing–people influence society in various ways. And lastly, don’t do the exact opposite of what you’re trying to enforce.

Be the change you want to see in the world.- Mahatma Ghandi

-Lynella